i wish i was gay, but i'm not.

Well, being gay isn't a commodity. It is almost like you're putting it on par with the football team and the cheerleading squad--ex: "if only I were gay then I would be popular!".
That being said, we all lie somewhere on that gay to straight scale. No reason to so strictly label yourself.

Without being crude but what sex are you thinking of when playing with ur self?

That's what made my mind up! Can't be straight if it's guys I'm thinking of when rubbing one out or making out with a girl!

its not a matter of choice.

being gay is not about being sexually attracted to /women/men. you have to be emotionally attracted. (if this makes sense.)

you could have sex with every guy/girl in town and not be emotionally attracted to any of them...but that would kinda make you a whore.

lots of people say being gay is a choice and at times it is but in others its not. Some people choose to be gay others are born that way. thats why some people say its a choice.

OK I am this isn't any troll or flame or anything.
I am just going to say my opinion.

GIVING BJ IS AWESOME.
I discovered that I am Bi and since then I have been giving BJs and Butt Sex to gay and bi guys.

I'd say you should try. If you don't find your self in that, just don't do it again?

Why don't you talk to your gay and bi friends about it and see what they think?

Why waste your time trying to find a label for something so vague? Just live your life, love who you love, be with who you want to be with.

But are you sexually attracted to women?

You could just be a "softer" kind of guy, you know.

No you cant be guy just because its not something to try to be. You must have been born in that way.What refers to the fact that you find guy men passionate and you have many guy friends it means nothing.I think you just think that life can be easier with guy.You are trying to escape from problems.Being guy or straight cant make you good or bad person.You should have good and interesting personality to be accepted as a person.Stop thinking about that and try to understand what you really what in this life

That's funny because i have felt the same thing (except im a girl). I often think it would be easier to date a girl even though i'm not physically attracted to them, because they understand my thinking better and i understand them better too. I also have a lot of GLBT friends, but i don't think you have to be GLBT to fit in especially if they are the nice people you say they which i know they are.

Also, totally with you with gay guys being more passionate. Straight guys are so repressed and have absolutely no fashion sense.

Really just go with it either way. I suppose you could call this Bi-Sexual, but you will know what you like when you try it.

As said above, it really isn't a matter of choice, regardless of what people might think.

i was straight for a while but the other night i slept with my local bar man and had the time of my life lt was hard hot steamy and so good . we started off wrestling each other and one thing led to another. i still like pussy but loved some cock for a change

Fuck some bitches, go have fun with your gay friends. It would make more sense if you were gay, but hell, maybe gay people are cool as hell. I'm not gonna judge.

The way that you portray yourself does not have to represent a type of sexuality. Or, what you are attracted to does not have to shape/constrain your personality. Fuck everyone else, be it cause thats what you are and when you get that lovebug or that lustbug it will be because you have confidence and youve found a match, a genuine match, with another person, whether they are male or female.. it doesnt matter. I see myself as trisexual.. im all bi and straight and not sexualised.. Ha!

Im a girl, but i know exactly what you mean. a lot of my friends are gay or lesbian, and i feel like i would be accepted if i was too. And while i am sexually attracted to guys, I wish that i could be attracted to girls just because they seem so much more open emotionally and more committed. I dont really have advice because i dont know what to do either, but im glad im not the only messed up one.

Just be true to yourself. I like women but i love men

So do I. Guys have hurt me in the worst ways and yet I still love cock. Boobs and Pussy turns me off so much.

you should be comended, we gay people need all the gay-friendly, friends we can get-thank you. am a gay male-u sound very mature. i wish if ,the 13 old-boy who killed himself,in houston,because he was bullied-he was gay,if he had a friend like you-would he commited suicide.

Ya..! Be whatever u wan to .. Life's just cool!

If u find gay people easier to get on with and find them a more passionte then clearly u have thought about being with a man. it also doesent really matter what people say its ur sexuality so do what makes u feel best !

I wish I was too...erm...if you mean by happy.

You can always be bisexual. :)

no one can say that you should be gay or not.

finding more security in the same sex is pretty much what it sounds like. maybe your in a time in your life where your finding men more comforting because there are some crazy women who are out there to shape you for who they want you to be rather than trying to be cool, human and accept you the way they EXPECT for you to accept them and their flaws. this is why best friends are the BEST!

Dont go gay because you are more comfortable with the family of your gender. ok? just be you and awesome!

if you are not attracted to men sexually you are not gay. But if it's something you want to do and can enjoy it than go for it if that's what you want to do.

You cant chose if you are gay or not. I think your just wanting the label of gay rather than actualy being interested in men. If a man comes along that you want to fuck then do it and if you like it then change your label if it means that much to you.

Why the bloody hell are you asking us what YOUR sexual orientation should be? It's your choice! Do what ya gotta do, man!

Sounds like you are very gay-friendly, which is good. I am bi and have a lot of gay and bi friends. You probably appreciate that gay people are usually pretty open-minded. I think that has to do with overcoming pressure from society. No matter what your orientation, its important to accept yourself. Maybe you are bi-curious? Human sexuality is so multi-faceted and the factors that cause us to be attracted to a person are hard to understand sometimes. I think what you are going through is pretty normal, but I suggest that you don't need to label yourself, you are still discovering yourself.

Close your eyes, imagine you'r lying down, you can smell a mans cologne, and some hairy legs are touching your face - then you feel a semi hard penis slapped on your mouth, you suck it. Then a man with big hands puts one up your asse, if you like the sound of that you're gay.

Well, if you want to be gay then be god damn fucking gay

If your not already gay why the fuck would you want to be ga..., well its your choice.

All the people who post neggitive comments, they are just a bunch of pricks, and no one can help you dicide if you r gay, you have to have a sexuall experince with the same sex. Im bi-curious, though not bi, or lesbian, because i have never had a sexually experince with a woman. All the people out there, who by the way think it is wrong to be gay, bi, les, ect. just dont know a thing in the world, no one can tell you who you like but yourself.

Thats your choice... you shouldn't let a bunch of random people decide for you, they might even be from Alabama and want to kill gays.... so i think you should make your own decision on whether to be gay or not... well it's not actually a decision so you should just let your body decide if your gay or not

Look, i'm not being funny, but if you're gay, you're gay. It's not a choice.

If you don't find dudes attractive, that's not gonna resolve it. The question is, how do you feel about girls?

There's always a chance you're one of those dudes that is kinda Bi but not enough to date a guy.

hehe, the rhymes. Bi, Guy. Heh.

This is unusual...
but you should really just be what you feel is right. You might be emotionally attracted to men enough to overcome the physicality problem. But, you shouldn't force yourself to be anything your not, just like a gay man shouldn't force himself to be straight, you'll only end up unhappy.
But why don't you try experimenting? See how you like the other side? haha

just for thinking that dude your gay !!!

You should definitely just be who you are.

to start im i am going to point out the fact that in my opinion being gay isnt a choice and this is the first reason i have said no my second reason is that choosing to be gay is basically being fake and it will not make you any happier as you will know this and you could get yourself into alot of situations you wouldnt want to be in and my third and final reason for saying no is that you shouldnt "choose to be gay" just to fit in people should accept you for who you are and you shouldnt be made to feel unnacepted if this is the case then you may want to think about getting a new group of friends as they are not true friends just like a group of straight people not accepting someone just because they are gay it works the same both ways round and they are not true friends if they do this

Being gay isn't a choice, you're born with or without it and you either are or you aren't. Don't treat it like it's some fad and you need to jump on the damned band wagon. Go find yourself a nice, caring girlfriend continue hanging out with your friends. I think you're lonely more than anything OOOOORRRR...

You're really just gay and to afraid to admidt it so you want the vastly stupid majority of the people on the interwebs to make clear your destiny?

Have sex with whoever you want, as long as its mutually consensual, its a waste to worry about what category you fit in. humans are too complicated to always fit in neat categories.

You're sick.

what the fuck?who invented this think called gay,homosexual etc,our purpose in live is to have a family who loves you,who would take care of you when your old,your dildo?:)) i don't think so.

You're the kind of people I don't like! You make gays look bad, making people think all gays choose to be gay. And no you won't be accepted as a person, more as a black person back in 1940's to 50's. People will think you're a stupid alien. Don't try and be gay. And if your interpretation of gay is act as a woman, that is wrong. Most gays act as their own gender would and just like their same gender. Most gays are born gay, and I don't want you to choose to be gay.

IF you want to try it out, nobody has any right to stop you. test the waters

Dont be gay to fit in, that's kind of weird. But if you actually liked dudes, then be the most flamboyant gay guy there is..
I'm not gay but I dont have anything against them. just dont be gay for the wrong reason
hahahah weirdest sentence ever.

I personally believe that being gay (male/female) is an emotional disease caused by no-self-confidence or over-self-confidence, just an OPINION.

Remember, the longer you have a disease, the harder it becomes to remove it.

Yes you should be gay because you're obsessed with it, and it's probably not going to get out of your system. Just be gay, don't be a stupid poofter about it causing all the "we're here we're queer" crap, and don't make it into a religion, just be gay as your choice of sexuality without pushing it on people, a heterosexual doesn't go, "I'm straight, baby, I have a right to be straight", just be gay and move on with your life.

you should never change yourself to fit in with others. just be more laid back and things will be fine my friend! I get the feeling your single and dont want to be... mainly because I can relate to this: I have a gay friend that is very nice to me and sometimes think about what itd be like... there is no right and wrong here... just be laid back about it man :)

Since you are curious and most of your friends are either gay or bi-sexual you may want to talk to one of them and let them know how you feel.
I learned after I was an adult that I was gay. I enjoy gay sex and being with men. I only can think of how life may have been if I had given into my feelings as a child.

have any other strait
guys out there thought about what it would be like to suck cock or take a length inside them. .
i am worried now that i might be turning gay and i want to get married and have kids .
how can i stop myself thinking about cock and hot guys

you do not get to CHOOSE to be gay!!!! just like a gay person can't just choose to be straight to fit in! believe me, many have tried and would have given anything to change the way they were, just to fit in and stop the ridicule. you can't change it. the fact that you ask such a question shows immaturity. you are not gay, you do not get to decide to be gay.

Try being fake-asexual. That way you get to be in a minority without all the work or worrying about not finding X attractive.

I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with an earlier poster. Being gay IS ALL ABOUT being SEXUALLY attracted to other men. EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION comes later in a developing relationship. OMG. NO, you are not gay and you shouldn't be! YOU'RE NOT ATTRACTED TO MEN!!! You can have lots of gay friends and be heterosexual! Also, being gay is a born trait with the teeniest, tiniest incidences of people becoming gay due to psychological environment. But these cases are pretty uncommon. One doesn't sit down one day in their early life and think to themselves "Hmmmmm.....do I want to be straight or gay?"......Sorry, that doesn't happen. You are born predetermined to your sexuality. It's a range. Some are born heterosexual, some bisexual, some homosexual.

I fell the exact. same. way. <3 (I'm a girl by the way.) Wow, I'm glad someone feels the same! A guy no less!

i feel the same way..

That's really confusing.....

You are what you are and you can"t change that. It's very nice that you are extremely accepting but don't try to change yourself into something that you aren't

Accept the cock man.

"Plus I've always liked gay men, because they've always been a more passionate person than straight men."

Being gay or straight has nothing to do with how passionate you are, rather with what your passions are. Since you obviously notice the passions of gay men more than straight men, I think you already know what the answer is.