One guy I was crushing on told me right away that he didn't want a girlfriend when I stated I really liked him,
and I was a bit disappointed, but understood.
More recently the guy I WAS TOGETHER WITH just suddenly out of nowhere told me he no longer wanted to be in a relationship and wanted to be "alone." THAT really hurt and pissed me off at the same time because I thought we were really great together, and I saw zero signs of any issues, but alas...*sigh*
That's normal at any age. I like a guy that can be man enough to break up instead of playing games.
However, you don't have to be friends if you think that will get in the way of you moving on. And if being friends means sleeping around at his convenience, I wouldn't give him the benefit.
I think one of the major factors is that I mentioned to him earlier on is that I didn't feel comfortable with having intercourse, and would have to warm up to the idea to even do foreplay stuff.
He told that it was okay that I felt that way,
but I am sensing that deep down inside he wanted a girlfriend who would be sexual with him.
When I was about 20-ish, I dated a guy for about 2 months. I told him I didn't want to have sex until we dated for a while because I wasn't comfortable with getting intimate with someone I barely knew. He pretended to be okay with it. Then, he ended up breaking up with me in a manipulative way. He said I was not affectionate enough. I simply told him that I respected his decision. And I really was understanding, I just wasn't willing to compromise my beliefs. Two weeks later he freaked out and tried to get back together with me. No way Jose.
You stick to your guns. Nice, honest guys DO exist.
" I just want to be friends."
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I've recently had both cases happen.
One guy I was crushing on told me right away that he didn't want a girlfriend when I stated I really liked him,
and I was a bit disappointed, but understood.
More recently the guy I WAS TOGETHER WITH just suddenly out of nowhere told me he no longer wanted to be in a relationship and wanted to be "alone." THAT really hurt and pissed me off at the same time because I thought we were really great together, and I saw zero signs of any issues, but alas...*sigh*
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That's normal at any age. I like a guy that can be man enough to break up instead of playing games.
However, you don't have to be friends if you think that will get in the way of you moving on. And if being friends means sleeping around at his convenience, I wouldn't give him the benefit.
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I think one of the major factors is that I mentioned to him earlier on is that I didn't feel comfortable with having intercourse, and would have to warm up to the idea to even do foreplay stuff.
He told that it was okay that I felt that way,
but I am sensing that deep down inside he wanted a girlfriend who would be sexual with him.
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Ah, there we go. Forget him.
When I was about 20-ish, I dated a guy for about 2 months. I told him I didn't want to have sex until we dated for a while because I wasn't comfortable with getting intimate with someone I barely knew. He pretended to be okay with it. Then, he ended up breaking up with me in a manipulative way. He said I was not affectionate enough. I simply told him that I respected his decision. And I really was understanding, I just wasn't willing to compromise my beliefs. Two weeks later he freaked out and tried to get back together with me. No way Jose.
You stick to your guns. Nice, honest guys DO exist.