10 yr old controls the house
I am a mother of 2. My son is 7 and my daughter is 5. I have been separated from my husband for 2 1/2 years. I met a great guy about a year ago, his wife of 12 years passed away 6 months after we met. He has a 10 year old son that he is now raising on his own. With my boyfriends work hours he is hardly ever home so it placed his two elderly parents to care for the boy while he worked. I had my own house with my 2 children, The more time that we spent with one another with the 3 kids everything seem to look great. I would go back home with my two kids, him and his son would go back home to their house. 2 months later my boyfriend asked if the kids and I would move in with him and his son. We both thought it would be a good idea. I noticed that his 10 year old Got to get by with a lot more then any other 10 year old would be allowed. He curses/fits his father. By my boyfriend working all his hours he showers the boy with materials when he asks. The 1st month things were going good beside all that. Since then I have noticed a lot more changes in the boy he is very violent/aggressive while he plays. He is now trying to start thinking he can control my two children and also very verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive to my children. His father and I have sat down with him many times about this situation. It even got to the point where we sat down with my boyfriend's parents and his son. Now it's been almost a year, I have not seen any changes in the child's behavior. The only change that I have noticed is that the father just brushes everything off even though he sees it and hears it! The other change that I have been noticing is that The 10-year-olds behavior is now reflecting on my own 2 children. Especially in my 7 year old, he has picked up On certain mannerisms of this child's behavior. It has gotten to the point that I told my boyfriend that I do not want his son near my children!! My boyfriend sees that there is a big difference between my two children and his son. I think that there is some serious issues with this boy then what his father knows about. I feel that he could harm someone and get by with it!! I love my boyfriend he is very good to my children and myself but I don't think that I can deal with his troubled son. I understand he is probably hurting from his mother passing so I take that into deep consideration. But I also feel that just because this son of his is having a bad day, shouldn't mean that he has to take his anger out on my kids verbally, physically and mentally. I have noticed that since I have been in this environment due to this kid I myself have been more depressed and stressed. My boyfriend knows my feelings and thoughts about his son. He is asking me to merry him. I don't think I want to because of his son but he swears that it will pass. Please I ask for some advice and I thank you for reading this on how I feel and what I'm going through. Because I truly believe I am living in hell