19 years old and unsure?

I'm 19 years old, I have no interest in partying or drinking, or anything else of that nature. I am aware ofthe fact that I have a far different and more mature mentality than my peers, but I've fallen behind as a result of this. Just to clafiry, what I mean when I say I've fallen behind is that I've never been in a relationship before. I've never even kissed a guy. I'm not awkward socially, and I don't believe that I'm unattractive, I just don't see what the problem is. I'm assuming it's a lack of maturity in the people I'm surrounded by in school, but I really don't know. Do you think there is something wrong with me?

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  • If you were as mature as you think you are, you would know that being interested in different things doesn't make you superior to other people... And coming from a 17-year old, aren't you a little old to be boasting about how your "old for your age". Grow up, my love.

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  • I would say that people probably view you as "dull" and don't call it maturity at all. Also just because someone parties and drinks, that doesn't mean they're "immature" it's their own style of living though maybe not neccisarlily yours. They simply want to have fun. (Which is a good outlook to have at 19) be yourself but also don't forget that you will find someone you classify as "mature" in time. Have fun while you're young though and don't be afraid to have an open mind while being cautious along the way. Best of luck :)

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  • I do not see why everyone makes such a big deal about this. You are normal and you can not help that the people around you are idiots. If you do not want to date well don't. The people around you are probobly making more of an importance on drinking, sex and partying because they are immature. You do not have to be to fit in. Just be yourself and do not give into peer pressure. Relationships are not really all that great! Dating is not as fun as people make it seem either. Some people are just simply not interested in dating. Really it is pointless unless you imagine a future with that person. Since if not it will just be a few years of good sex or making out and a date to the movie possibly. So if you are horny yeah it might seem fun for a while. However if you are not horny you are just wasting your time since chances are they really have no commitment to you. Take this advice from someone who has been in many. Most people do not take dating seriously. It is a bunch of over glamorized bull shit pushed by the media. Your first kiss is not always magic! Neither if your first fuck. Might be for some but dont expect anything. Movies are a lie! At least when it comes to this issue they are a bunch of shit. Focus on school and make yourself a good future!

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  • Having no desire to engage in fun activities isn't "mature", it's "dull". Shakespere was a genius, he must have been somewhat "mature". Yet he fell in love countless times, if we are to believe his Sonnets.
    Sorry for my honesty.

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  • Someone* oh by the way people respect you more because of this or at least that's what I've found in my case!

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  • I'm 20 and I've never had a relationship before but my reasons are different than yours. You sound really confident and that's a good thing. You should only date some if you REALLY want to

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  • I'm twenty. Me and my friends never drink and I am with my first boyfriend. Never question who you are as a person. You should be proud!

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  • I'm 19 and i'm just like you bt I date ppl just like you. There are plenty of mature ppl out there. You just gotta search =)

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