My step-son is 22 years old and is in the same situation. His problem is that he works and goes home and plays video games. That's it. He doesn't put himself in situations and/or places where he can meet girls his age. He doesn't drink or use drugs (which is a good thing) so he always says, "Where am I supposed to meet someone?". He has tried the online dating and had his heart broken. He has issues with mild acne, but other wise is a great looking young man. He goes to church, but isn't interested in anyone there. He has the ideal woman in his mind, and won't settle for less. At 22 years old, a virgin (and is going to stay one until he is married), he limits himself by his own standards. If he could learn to be friends first, he may find that it is how most people become boyfriend/girlfriend. The best relationships start out as friends. He just wants to go from Hi, how are you? To... Be my girl. He doesn't understand that relationships take time, patience, understanding and nurturing. James, I think you will find the right person as soon as you stop looking. It always happens like that. I dated several men over several years and didn't get married until I was 38 years old. I'm so glad I waited, because I know I married my soulmate, my true love, the one I had been looking for. It happened just when I had given up on dating and had resigned to be an old spinster! Lol. It will happen for you when the time is right in your life. Everything happens for a reason. I found my husband on "Plentyoffish.com". I had never tried online dating and only did it to get my friends off of my back. I never expected to make a connection with anyone, let alone meet someone. We e-mailed for months, and talked on the phone for months, before I agreed to meet him in person. Needless to say, we started out as friends, and we ended up falling in love with each other. It can and will happen for you. Don't give up, just be yourself and when the time is right you'll know.
This is so wonderful that you shared this story! It is quite a lesson. Thank you very much! I hope all of the best for your son. I think it's important for him to have a continuous inflow of new friends and to conquer video game addictions (they can be addictions!). Ok, well have a wonderful day whenever you read this! :)
20 years old and never had a girlfriend.
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My step-son is 22 years old and is in the same situation. His problem is that he works and goes home and plays video games. That's it. He doesn't put himself in situations and/or places where he can meet girls his age. He doesn't drink or use drugs (which is a good thing) so he always says, "Where am I supposed to meet someone?". He has tried the online dating and had his heart broken. He has issues with mild acne, but other wise is a great looking young man. He goes to church, but isn't interested in anyone there. He has the ideal woman in his mind, and won't settle for less. At 22 years old, a virgin (and is going to stay one until he is married), he limits himself by his own standards. If he could learn to be friends first, he may find that it is how most people become boyfriend/girlfriend. The best relationships start out as friends. He just wants to go from Hi, how are you? To... Be my girl. He doesn't understand that relationships take time, patience, understanding and nurturing. James, I think you will find the right person as soon as you stop looking. It always happens like that. I dated several men over several years and didn't get married until I was 38 years old. I'm so glad I waited, because I know I married my soulmate, my true love, the one I had been looking for. It happened just when I had given up on dating and had resigned to be an old spinster! Lol. It will happen for you when the time is right in your life. Everything happens for a reason. I found my husband on "Plentyoffish.com". I had never tried online dating and only did it to get my friends off of my back. I never expected to make a connection with anyone, let alone meet someone. We e-mailed for months, and talked on the phone for months, before I agreed to meet him in person. Needless to say, we started out as friends, and we ended up falling in love with each other. It can and will happen for you. Don't give up, just be yourself and when the time is right you'll know.
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This is so wonderful that you shared this story! It is quite a lesson. Thank you very much! I hope all of the best for your son. I think it's important for him to have a continuous inflow of new friends and to conquer video game addictions (they can be addictions!). Ok, well have a wonderful day whenever you read this! :)