21 year old supervirgin

Here is my situation:

I am a 21 year old male.

On the one hand I seem to be doing well: I go to a very good university, I am tall, athletic and quite "buff", get along well with people, intelligent and have a sense of humor (or at least I'd like to think so).

However there is one part of life where my achievements can be summed up with a big fat 0: relationships and females.
The things I have NEVER done:
1) Slept with a girl
2) Kissed a girl
3) Held a girl's hand
4) Gone out with a girl
5) Asked a girl out
6) Flirted

I am not one of those "saving myself for that special one" kind of guys- I have no religious beliefs and I'd happily "get it on" with any random hottie (or go for something more long term).

Of course there is nobody but myself to blame for this: I have no social life as in I never go out (been to a nightclub only twice in my entire life), I don't drink or smoke. Because of this there really aren't any opportunities for me to simply interact with the opposite sex, let alone take things to the next level.

In high school and now in university when everybody goes out on a Friday or Saturday night, I am alone in my room watching films and when guys everywhere are waking up the next morning in a bed next to some pretty girl they pulled the night before, I am in the gym.

Lately this has really started bothering me because at 21 years of age, I really should have done at least something with a girl. Even my own dad occasionally pokes a joke at me for my female inactivity. It feels like there is a huge part of life that I could be enjoying but I'm not and instead am simply missing out on it.

On top of this, I've started thinking whether when a guy is at a certain age, girls expect him to have a certain amount of experience in these things and hence a guy who doesn't might be seen as off putting.

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Comments ( 18 )
  • Duck_________

    Wow, you and I are almost alike. Although I'm not athletic. But seriously, same age, good universities, no smoking/drinking, no clubbing, no female experience, etc. I'm the Australian equivalent of you.

    Well, to be honest, I don't really care, and it seems that neither do you, at the moment. I'm going to presume that all you currently have going for you, you have wanted.

    You wanted = you made it happen.

    Ask yourself this; is it truly that important to you?

    I hope that helps.

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    • badgerbadgersnake

      Actually I do care. For a long while this was at the back of my mind but over the course of the last few months I've been thinking about it more and more. I DO want to have fun with pretty girls, I've had enough of sitting on the sidelines.

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      • jakeomaniac

        Well, if you truly want it, go out and get it! I was in the same position as you (albeit, at 18), and I came to find out that the only thing that was holding me back was myself.

        If you don't feel comfortable with jumping right in, take it slow. Start with taking one night a month to go with your friends to a club, then slowly work your way up. Just make sure to wear a condom when you do have fun (My dad forgot. That's my story. =D)

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  • BOYracer88

    damm, just live your life already, you wont get this time back you know, you will regret it soon enough, even if you try, and get rejected you will still gain confidence in yourself, you dont need experience, you can blag you way through with confidance in yourself, have a damm drink and go nuts while youre young. eye of the tiger.

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  • BeautifulBaller

    I think this just means u have ur priorities straight! Being a girl a respect that! First of all u don't need to smoke or drink to meet a girl, u could b at the gym, try to b more approachable, put urself out there alittle, u c a girl u like, flirt a little ask her out for some coffee! Don't feel bad fir not having a girl in ur bed everynight! In my opinion dating, relationships, sex, ect... Should be taken seriously! There are to many freakin diseases out there anyways!

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  • zii

    THIS IS NOT NORMAL. the appropriate age to fuck is seventeen damnit. go get a hooker

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  • jean

    Get off the fckin bench and man-up!!!!

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  • mae94

    or whats worse you will end up with a bossy gf who orders you around all the time because you have no confidence etc.... good luck to you tho, best wishes

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  • mae94

    men who never have a gf by older age like you will end up using prostitutes most of their life ... you should drink and flirt some girls .. something will happen and you can break your cycle.
    21 is a man , you sound very young for 21.
    uni and gym etc .. that's not living.

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  • Ed12345

    I am nearly 26 and still a virgin (have kissed and asked girls out though). 21 is not that bad, and it sounds as if you've other things you'd rather do for now. If you start to socialise and meet more women, you'll probably find a girlfriend before long. You don't need to go to night clubs; there are millions of women who hate night clubs as well, and you can meet women anywhere. You might even meet a girl at the gym you go to. Keep your eyes peeled!

    Love works in mysterious ways, and I've never understood why some men have it so much easier than others in attracting women. I may be a man of many character flaws, but there are plenty of similarly flawed men with girlfriends.

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  • Gidget

    you dont have to be out drinking and clubbing to get a girl although if u want a one night stand thats the best place to find one but i think u are better off taking it slow or fast with a nice girl someone like u maybe with no experience it will make u both more comfortable go to the library scope the place out for hot girls then start casual convo with her if u like her ask her out be urself and act relaxed and confident confidence is so hot it can make an ugly guy attractive

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  • Maybe u should try idk FLIRT!!

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  • steve1984

    Randomfantasy08 I'll play games with u :) lol

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  • memyselfandyou

    I'm the same, so this is normal.
    Well, you've never flirted with a girl, so first try doing that. Show the girl you like that you have interest in her, and maybe she will show interest back, if not, don't be sad. There are 8928389 girls on this planet, and oh; it's never too late, don't worry! It'll come :)

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  • randomfantasy08

    I'm exactly the same! Except I'm female and 18 :)
    I have no interest in guys (Or girls :P) at the moment.
    Friends go out partying and stuff but I would much rather stay at home and play video games LOL

    I would like to settle down with someone, but not until I'm older :)

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    • jakeomaniac

      How much older? lol, jk.

      Seriously though, ease yourself into it if you ain't comfortable with going off the high dive yet.

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  • zii

    You have no skills and your face is probably really really ugly. If your not ugly, you just have terrible fucking skills.

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    • badgerbadgersnake

      No, I wouldn't say I'm terribly ugly, probably just average.
      But yes, I do have a huge lack of flirting skills, demonstrated aptly by the fact that I've never flirted with a girl.

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