who cares...it's not that much of an age gap anyways. perhaps a maturity gap (i can't tell from your post which side is more immature, though). i know couples with twenty or thirty year age differences that have been married for the long haul and nothing catastrophic happened to them, and that was marriage. this is just a boyfriend who is conveniently old enough to buy you some beer and if you someday don't like him any more, as least you can look back on your life when you are his age and say to yourself that you had the experience of being with an adult while you were leaving your teens. and so he parties with your friends? i kind of understand the angle you are coming from, but at least he's not one of those older guys who abusively isolates you from your peers. that's even creepier. also, if you guys really have something that feels like it is genuinely working out--shouldn't he act like a boyfriend your age? or should he instead say to you 'oh no, honey...i can't go out tonight with you and your friends because when i was learning to drive you were learning to shit in a toilet." i'm not an older guy advocating this. i'm a female who just turned thirty...never dated a teenager since i was a teenager, but i can't see how what he is doing is just the craziest thing ever. the bottom line is that you are hopefully able discern your truest feelings for this guy, and if he's not a controling douche bag, then you probably have the upper hand in this situation (especially because you are young and he probably feels very lucky to be with a younger woman).
31 year old man partying with college kids under 21?
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who cares...it's not that much of an age gap anyways. perhaps a maturity gap (i can't tell from your post which side is more immature, though). i know couples with twenty or thirty year age differences that have been married for the long haul and nothing catastrophic happened to them, and that was marriage. this is just a boyfriend who is conveniently old enough to buy you some beer and if you someday don't like him any more, as least you can look back on your life when you are his age and say to yourself that you had the experience of being with an adult while you were leaving your teens. and so he parties with your friends? i kind of understand the angle you are coming from, but at least he's not one of those older guys who abusively isolates you from your peers. that's even creepier. also, if you guys really have something that feels like it is genuinely working out--shouldn't he act like a boyfriend your age? or should he instead say to you 'oh no, honey...i can't go out tonight with you and your friends because when i was learning to drive you were learning to shit in a toilet." i'm not an older guy advocating this. i'm a female who just turned thirty...never dated a teenager since i was a teenager, but i can't see how what he is doing is just the craziest thing ever. the bottom line is that you are hopefully able discern your truest feelings for this guy, and if he's not a controling douche bag, then you probably have the upper hand in this situation (especially because you are young and he probably feels very lucky to be with a younger woman).