I believe there are certain stages in life in order to be a happy, fulfilled adult. You are 18 so you are just starting to enjoy freedom and the world around you in a "grown up" setting. Believe it or not things change quickly at this time and you go through a lot of transitions. This is where you really get to start learning who you are, what you want, and what path you will take with your life. It is a great time to party and explore and travel and be spontaneous.
Now your 31 yr old bf... He SHOULD be in a completely different phase of his life. Something is wrong here. I am not saying that 31 yr olds don't like to party or hang out with friends, but they should be doing it with people their age, who are going through the same type of life challenges. People in there 30's are usually ready to settle down, start a family- really kick off their career... It sounds like your bf is stuck in his 20's and not adjusting well. You need to ask yourself- when you get in your 30's would you want to be hanging out with a bunch of people under 21?
I have seen a couple of adults who do this- and if you think he is going to change and stop hanging out with people in this age group and partying... you would be wrong. They usually act this way for forever, never growing up and never becoming the responsible adult they should be.
31 year old man partying with college kids under 21?
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I believe there are certain stages in life in order to be a happy, fulfilled adult. You are 18 so you are just starting to enjoy freedom and the world around you in a "grown up" setting. Believe it or not things change quickly at this time and you go through a lot of transitions. This is where you really get to start learning who you are, what you want, and what path you will take with your life. It is a great time to party and explore and travel and be spontaneous.
Now your 31 yr old bf... He SHOULD be in a completely different phase of his life. Something is wrong here. I am not saying that 31 yr olds don't like to party or hang out with friends, but they should be doing it with people their age, who are going through the same type of life challenges. People in there 30's are usually ready to settle down, start a family- really kick off their career... It sounds like your bf is stuck in his 20's and not adjusting well. You need to ask yourself- when you get in your 30's would you want to be hanging out with a bunch of people under 21?
I have seen a couple of adults who do this- and if you think he is going to change and stop hanging out with people in this age group and partying... you would be wrong. They usually act this way for forever, never growing up and never becoming the responsible adult they should be.