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Thanks for your response. TBH I forgot I posted this. Two years on and he's now 14. He's changed quite a bit. He's not going out in large groups of friends (and we moved) and he has no friends in our area. But he seems to have settled down at school. He has 4 friends who he spends time with in school, his xbox, his laptop and his bass guitar (which he is fantastic at!).
I think he has grown into himself more and has decided to concentrate on school where he is doing really well. I think he now thinks this is just how his life is going to be and he's getting on with it. Which is sad and positive all at the same time.
I didn't get him diagnosed as I didn't want a cloud hanging over us nor did I want him to have anything holding him back. I'm hoping he will become more confident as he gets used to being him I guess.
I've also realised that I've been emotionally unavailable for most of his life and I don't think that has helped so I'm trying more as well.
All in all life has settled :-)
I would love to hear about you, how have you managed, what's become easier??
I've gone to university and just finished a degree in languages.
I still find eye contact a struggle if I'm scared, but I know how to put on the masks I need for other people and Joes (neurotypicals).
I'm still in touch with people I met from my time in Japan 2 years ago.
Just trying to get a job atm, as I'm on the dole (Like almost every other UK graduate)
You've done very well and your a great example of what can be done if you put your mind to it. Well done!
And good luck on the job front its hard for everyone out there.
Best wishes and good luck.
I'm having a rough time of it atm due to other reasons - which I'd rather not divulge here, if that's OK - but all that everyone involved can do is work out what to do as they go along.
12 year old has NO friends
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A year on and I've only just read this.
I'm a 24-year-old woman with Asperger's. I could tell you about all the progress I've made in life, but I don't want to make you or your son feel bad.
Just wondering, really - how is he doing? Just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you two
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Hiya
Thanks for your response. TBH I forgot I posted this. Two years on and he's now 14. He's changed quite a bit. He's not going out in large groups of friends (and we moved) and he has no friends in our area. But he seems to have settled down at school. He has 4 friends who he spends time with in school, his xbox, his laptop and his bass guitar (which he is fantastic at!).
I think he has grown into himself more and has decided to concentrate on school where he is doing really well. I think he now thinks this is just how his life is going to be and he's getting on with it. Which is sad and positive all at the same time.
I didn't get him diagnosed as I didn't want a cloud hanging over us nor did I want him to have anything holding him back. I'm hoping he will become more confident as he gets used to being him I guess.
I've also realised that I've been emotionally unavailable for most of his life and I don't think that has helped so I'm trying more as well.
All in all life has settled :-)
I would love to hear about you, how have you managed, what's become easier??
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I've gone to university and just finished a degree in languages.
I still find eye contact a struggle if I'm scared, but I know how to put on the masks I need for other people and Joes (neurotypicals).
I'm still in touch with people I met from my time in Japan 2 years ago.
Just trying to get a job atm, as I'm on the dole (Like almost every other UK graduate)
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You've done very well and your a great example of what can be done if you put your mind to it. Well done!
And good luck on the job front its hard for everyone out there.
Best wishes and good luck.
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Thank you :)
I'm having a rough time of it atm due to other reasons - which I'd rather not divulge here, if that's OK - but all that everyone involved can do is work out what to do as they go along.