18 and never been asked out?

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I just turned eighteen, and I've never even been asked out by a guy. It's never REALLY bothered me, but now I'm starting to feel left out! Why don't guys seem interested in me? I'm just a normal asian girl, intelligent, pretty, fashionable, with lots of friends. People describe be as mysterious when they first meet me, but I'm very nice and smile a lot. I don't understand why guys don't like me! Is this normal? Should I worry that maybe there's something wrong with me? Everyone seems so shocked when I tell them I've never even been asked out. Is it normal? Why don't guys ask me out?

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    So ask out a guy yourself. There's nothing that says you have to sit and wait for them to come to you!

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  • 4w04se
    14 years ago

    Maybe you attract "shy" guys?

    I bet alot of guys like you and thought about asking you out .. Maybe just they don't have the guts to actually do it :)

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  • Kiwi_Bird
    10 years ago

    Same here. Although I am a kiwi, so there's that...

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  • wordscripple
    14 years ago

    i bet you are really pretty, some guys just take their time on ugly girls because all they think about is sex and ugly girls arent hard to impress....dont take offense to not being asked out! keep strong

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  • kratos
    14 years ago

    u want to go out w/me?

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  • mmaracle97
    14 years ago

    boys ddo not care on personality. dont feed her that sh*t. They care about looks. I know this is going to sound mean, but maybe you are not just the exact "in style".

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  • exax
    13 years ago

    I imagine you are in more guys minds than you think but they need to know more of you before they ask you out. Ollieo, LeauxJ and Mochny are all right.
    Just for the record, at your age, despite trying, I wasn't dating, I had girlfriends and that was exactly how they saw me, a friend... six months later, unexpectedly, I started to go out with a friend's sister. We have been together for the last 23 years! Life can really surprise you :-)

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  • mochny
    14 years ago

    I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you. I wasn't asked out by someone until a couple of months before I turned 18. Maybe if you want to go out with someone, you should try asking them out yourself.

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  • LeauxJ
    14 years ago

    They could be intimidated... and fear that you're too good for them and you'll reject them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Yeah - its not just about how nicely packaged you are. Its mostly about who you are & how personable and accessible to guys.

    Being mysterious will do nothing to let a guy know you are interested in them. It just means you are a big unknown and to ask you out would be to risk rejection.

    So let the guys you like know you are interested by being interested in them. Talk. Find out about them, & your mutual interests.

    Flirt. And as Jen suggested, ask a guy out yourself, because waiting & wanting without lifting a finger yourself smacks of pride.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I would be honored to date you. Is that all you want to do? Any benifits involved? Sheet time?

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  • sheepeatgrass
    14 years ago

    im thirteen and never had a bf :(

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    • feet_are_for_dancing
      14 years ago

      Me too and it kinda bums me out with all of my friends having had boyfriends. I understand I am kinda young to be worrying about this but being the ONLY single person of my friends is a lamestain in my life.

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