Thankyou for your support, I have been beside myself over it for a long time. You are right I am Older and Wiser! I just needed someone elses opinion, I do see a counsellor once a week but she can ...

I would say "Hold on, here he is now with our tea, hey baby your girlfriend (whatever her name is) wants to chat with you" and pass the phone over! Listen in of course.

I think your family don't want you to have any bad traits that they see in Your Mother. And if they didn't care then they wouldn't comment, they obviously hurt over the whole break up situation and...