Haha that's funny, because I was thinking the same think about you.

a good thing to do is throw yourself into something physical that you like,eg sports, walking and before you know it you'll probably enjoy what your doing and have more motivation to do other thing...

Thanks people for your comments, they are very helpful and i appreciate everyone being mature and honest about the subjuct. I've been thinking recently and it probably is me / my body language givi...