Well, why don't you talk to her openly and ask the reasons behind her decision? It could clarify things for you two and help not to hold grudge against each other.

I'd rather use a pot in this case, not a bathtub.

Thanks for your reply, it is lovely. By the part of us being 20 years apart I've meant that usually I have problem connecting with older people, I feel cautious because I usually know and feel tha...