About drobo45 (51320)

My wife of 42 years is only affectionate if I initiate it. We’re in our mid-60’s now and our first 10 years were fantastic and I would like to find some way to just bring part of that back. Over the years, I have tried repeatedly to find the “right” time but it doesn’t matter. No time seems to be the right time. If I wait for her, it just doesn’t happen. I make it a point to tell her she is beautiful even when we first wake up in the morning. We can cuddle in bed for a while ( the only time I can get close to her) but then she “has” to get up. Kisses are few and only last about 5 seconds and I have to make her put her arms around me even then. French kissing hasn't happened in nearly 30 years. We can hold hands in public occasionally but, I have to reach across the car to even touch her while I’m driving. I have tried many times to discuss all this with her bet it goes no where. As for sex, I know she has vaginal dryness. I have even made some suggestions to offer some help. I’ve even purchased a vaginal cream and lubricant for her but, she won’t have anything to do with them. And yes, I have had some health issues that are now resolved that had contributed to ED. About 9 months ago, I brought all of this up and tried to talk about it. I said that all of this makes me very sad that we have lost something that we may never get back. Unfortunately, that just seemed to make things worse because she felt cornered While she is willing to help satisfy me, she doesn’t want or need it. That just makes me feel guilty for asking and like I’m begging. If I make a move, she pushes my hand away which makes me feel rejected. It really isn’t any fun without my wife being a willing and active participant. Send A Message