I'd say that is of the norm. If, however, you find the stress to be unbearable, then I'd seek reemployment into a less stressful profession. You're physical and mental health should be a top priority.

In general, I'd prefer that me and whoever I know solely online maintain the idealized versions of ourselves that we've created for each other and not have that illusion shattered by a personal mee...

Are you afraid that something will damage them while you are looking?