Don't be afraid to admit it. Sure, there's going to be judgemental women, but there's also women who really enjoy "deflowering" men. And then all those who could care less.

Kindness seems to be getting rarer and rarer. I'm sorry they were so cold.

LED candles are your friend. The powers that be don't give a flying rat's ass if you have all the "proper equipment" or not. All you need is intent.

You should tell him. It's worse wanting someone from a distance for months, years even, and finally telling them just ends in disaster. It's like a bandaid. Best get it over with, it will be more ...

It's normal. I'm the same way.

Usually allies are welcome unless otherwise stated. You can ask.