That sounds like dissociation of some kind. It's when you disconnect from your feelings, memories, body, ect....I am terrible at explaining psychological anything but it's fairly common, especially...

It's not lying but it might be flakey but you never know really what is going on for people that they had to change their plans. They could have things happening for them that they don't feel comfo...

It's totally fine to cross dress if you want to. I don't know who Annie is though, but its perfectly fine.