Thx everyone. I'll just keep doing as I always have, but no more hard scrubbing and no long showers. And won't use harsh chemicals such as bleach. That was a stretchy thought.

Where i grew up, everyone was poor and we joke about it always. I only mentioned my "shack of a house" to jokingly explain why I only took a bath once a week....and to explain that I no longer bath...

It may be considered emotional abuse.

I don't know how to avoid it on your fingers , but it is not normal to have it in your pants. However, I overlooked that men have to deal with hair between the cheeks and shit does stick there and ...